When we force things we create ripple effects of immense proportions. When a butterfly flaps its wings it influences the weather on the other side of the planet. Now imagine when things get forced, it ripples out and comes back picking up everything of like vibration like a magnet. Energy works circular, so you always have to clean up your own mess and it will keep you busy.
A small change in one place in a complex system can have large effects elsewhere.
Never have an agenda but observe where its going on its own. No meddling, no manipulating. Purity of action will show up. But mainly there won't be any action required.
The Western mind has been conditioned to aggressively pursue things, to go after them. This behavior is greatly praised. We are taught to beat ourselves up. Taking care of ourselves is considered selfish and lazy. We are always supposed to be there for someone else, to always put out. Neediness is encouraged. Life has no strings attached, but we are taught to hold on and never let go.