|I live in the Magic Kingdom. The road through hell will get you there.|
You want to avoid feeling death so you reach for the familiar, something that guarantees your survival.
When you wait for what shows up naturally you don't know what may show up, something unpleasant and uncomfortable, something that gets you out of your comfort zone, that's reason enough to run and grab the familiar.
When you wait for what shows up naturally you always have to die before it shows up.