We do not attract what we want but what we need to become whole. Why do we abuse ourselves so much and blame the other person for it? What causes this blindness? Why do we not see that we are the cause of our suffering? When we blame another we get plenty of support from our friends making us right and the other wrong.
People come in gorgeous packages, pretty on the outside but rotten to the core. They know how to behave decorously. And people are ok with it, to them its normal, they delight in gossip and complaining. Its a habit. Just like an alcoholic who needs the bottle so does the mind need the same thoughts over and over. You have to retrain yourself to think new thoughts.